T A K E a L O O K at E V E R Y D A Y L I F E and you will find that RELATIONSHIPS are everywhere. They are all around us.
Welcome to your number one relationship blogsite where everything is about relationships. We continue our discussion on The Value of Relationship.
You will agree with me that whatever is not valued suffers abuse due to neglect. No man gives a child ruby to play with, neither does a room filled with treasures remain unguarded unless the possessors of such valuables are ignorant of its worth. Value assumes its worth according to the degree of premium placed on a commodity. French Poet and Critic, Anatole France once said “To die for an idea is to place a pretty high price on conjectures.”But remember, conjectures still have to pass the test.
Our choice to place a high or low price on relationships will be informed by the ideas or shall we say conjectures which have got ahold of us. Ask yourself this. What do I really know about Relationships?
Here are some truths which establishes the importance of Relationships, causing it to be indispensible. I like to call it The Value of Relationship.
RELATION SHIPS ARE ENMESHED IN INTERDEPENDENCE. IT ISN’T ABOUT SURRENDERING INDEPENDENCE
I have tried to identify something – anything – that truly is independent and I have come to the conclusion that no being, thing, state or object is really independent. I am still searching.
No one is self-sufficient. I am yet to see a hotshot, super efficient being that can do everything by himself, requiring no assistance from anyone or anything. James Bond – the movie character – requires assistance to execute his tasks and God also requires that we do his will here on earth, even as it is done in heaven. We are configured to be dependent on one another for our utmost comfort. The saying “united we stand, divided we fall is true because no house divided against itself will stand.
Consider this illustration: Bricks are valuable materials in building a house but cement also plays a vital role in building. If one decides to build a house with the best bricks money can buy but fails to employ the use of the cheapest cement. Will the house stand? The answer is an obvious No! The uniting agent; the cement has not been added. This causes the house to be divided against itself and a fall is inevitable as such a house cannot last.
RELATION SHIPS HAVE ITS ROOTS IN GIVING AND NOT IN RECEIVING
Relation ships have its efforts in building up and not in tearing down; it aims at selflessness and not selfishness. A wise man once observed that “the hands that give are always on top.” This is in agreement with scriptures. Acts 20:35, amplified version, admonishes us to live for others and concludes by saying that “be continuously mindful of the words of the Lord Jesus, how He Himself said, It is more blessed (makes one happier and more to be envied) to give than to receive.”
This is a tough nut for most people to crack as they have succeeded in convincing themselves that they do not have anything. In fact, when there are some extra bucks in their pockets, they remind themselves that they are on a tight or strict budget. I have come to realize that what doesn’t leave your hand loses its value over time and what leaves your hand doesn’t leave your life. It has only gone ahead to increase and pave way for the giver. One of the proverbs in the book of Proverbs talks about the gift of a man, how that it makes room for him and brings him before great men.
As you go ahead to give of your substance, know that rewards are inevitable. It’s like rain and tax. So long as the sun will shine, the rain will follow and in life, we all know that some things are just not free. Someone has to pay for it and it might as well be you.
There you have it. Relationships always place a demand on you. You have the option of giving in or bailing out, but before you do what you choose to do, ask yourself again “Will I go the easy way or the right way?” Listen to your heart, let Love lead. You won’t regret you did.
Have a great month! It’s going to be a September to remember.